Basic psychology I learned with some rats: Behavior that is reinforced will increase.
IE: Behavior + Reinforcement = More of the Same
IE: 1 + 1 = 2
- If you allow someone to take advantage of you, to continually violate reasonable boundaries, that behavior will only continue and probably increase.
- If you enable bad behavior, that behavior will only continue or increase.
- If you continually rescue someone, that person will continually behave in ways that require you to rescue her (or him).
- Take a stand. Stick to boundaries. Refuse to rescue or appease.