Survival Tip #1: Surviving your “life predicament”

Other blogs offer snark about the Oscar broadcast on this day after, such as why in the world did Melissa Leo take away poor old (very old) Kirk Douglas’s cane, the BRUISED MUSE gives you survival tips that might really be useful in your life.  For Survival Tip #1, here’s one of my favorite quotes from the brilliant psychiatrist (and novelist) Irvin Yalom, who literally wrote the book on group psychotherapy. This quote is from one of his shorter works, The Gift of Therapy.  He says:

“Once an individual recognizes their role in creating their own life predicament, they realize that they, and only they, have the power to change the situation.”

The Bruised Muse has found, in her life and in her psychotherapy office, that life gets a whole lot easier when an individual finally recognizes that she (or he) ONLY has the power to change how she behaves in the world, and how she responds to others’ behavior toward her.  She does NOT have the power to change the others’ behavior.

To begin learning how one actually is in the world (as opposed to how one believes one is), one must first develop some curiosity about it.

More about curiosity in another post.

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One thought on “Survival Tip #1: Surviving your “life predicament”

  1. In playing with the idea of being responsible for what your reaction is to the “life predicament”, and or otherwise put, your perception of your “life predicament”, its actually more than an idea, its the most real fact in OUR world, right?
    Taking responsibility, and or recognizing our outlook on the “moment” and not getting caught up or stuck in the “anticipation of the moment is crucial to actually allow yourself to enjoy it and manifesting it into a healthy experience (even if its eating a piece of cake). Being able to listen to your instincts and frankly to yourself, as opposed to dwelling on what your expectations were (i.e disappointment, anguish, love, hate, bliss). The outside influence of teachings and learnings, and even friendly conversations spark moments of realization, but from your past experiences and how you choose to remember them, not necessarily how the information was intended to be taken. Intention is the key thing here. On both sides right?
    All in all I feel that your “life predicament” belongs to you and how you choose to utilize the power of those experiences to create peace in yourself and continue the cycle of energy exchange. With all that said good and bad are not the focus here..its just judgement free life conections….choice-less in its actuality but not in its objective. Seems like a tall order in only one lifetime!!!! What stands in the way is this pesky thing called fear..at least for me!

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